Nelson

I'm yours

Well you done done me and you bet I felt it
I tried to be chill but you're so hot that I melted
I fell right through the cracks, now I'm trying to get back

Before the cool done run out, I'll be giving it my bestest
And nothing's going to stop me but divine intervention
I reckon it's again my turn to win some or learn some

But I won't hesitate no more, no more
It cannot wait, I'm yours

Well open up your mind and see like me
Open up your plans and damn you're free
Look into your heart and you'll find love love love love

Listen to the music of the moment
people, dance and sing
We're just one big family
And it's our God-forsaken right to be loved loved loved loved loved

So I won't hesitate no more, no more
It cannot wait, I'm sure
There's no need to complicate,
our time is short
This is our fate, I'm yours

D-d-do do you, but do you, d-d-do
But do you want to come on
Scooch on over closer dear
And I will nibble your ear

I've been spending way too long checking my tongue in the mirror
And bending over backwards just to try to see it clearer
But my breath fogged up the glass
And so I drew a new face and I laughed

I guess what I be saying is there ain't no better reason
To rid yourself of vanities and just go with the seasons
It's what we aim to do, our name is our virtue

But I won't hesitate no more, no more
It cannot wait, I'm yours

Come on and open up your mind and see like me
(I won't hesitate)
Open up your plans and damn you're free
(No more, no more)
Look into your heart and you'll find that the sky is yours
(It cannot wait, I'm sure)

So please don't, there's no need
(There's no need to complicate)
There's no need to complicate
(Our time is short)
'Cause our time is short


Lyrics: Jason Mraz

What it takes to have love in our lifes

by: Krishnananda and Amana.

Once in a workshop, a woman asked us if her longing to be in deep and intimate relationships was co-dependent. We answered that there is never a problem with longing. Our longing to be in a deep, intimate, sustained sharing with someone is natural and healthy. The problem is that the longing often lacks consciousness.

Most often, we enter our relationships full of fantasies and naiveté, like adolescents. And often, the beginning of a relationship is a wonderful time. But it is also a dream state. Sooner or later, problems arise and when they do, we naturally think that the problem lies with ourselves, with the other person, or with the relationship. Then we may move on, or become depressed and give up on the possibility of love, or even worse, we remain in the relationship, perhaps even for years as the love dies and the energy goes flat or even nasty.

We may not realize that love takes deep work and awareness of ourselves. It takes awareness that relating deeply with another person will bring up deep unconscious issues. We are not born knowing how to love. We are born knowing how to have sex and how to be spontaneous and alive. But turning aliveness and attraction into love is a totally different story.

There are four major areas where more understanding can make the difference between disaster or deeping love.

• The first involves an understanding that initially we relate to the world and to others much like a child with dreams and expectations. That child consciousness needs to be transformed into mature consciousness.
• The second involves a more profound understanding for the nature of attraction and how and why dramas develop the longer we are with someone in an intimate relationship – any intimate relationship.
• The third involves understanding how and why our sexuality changes as we go deeper in a love relationship.
• The fourth involves understanding the roles that nearly always develop between lovers (and friends) as time goes on.

Most of us naturally have ideas how people should behave and how the world should be. We hope and even expect that we will be treated in a certain way, especially when we open and allow ourselves to be vulnerable. This is the “entitled child” inside of us. When someone close to us does not treat us in a way which feels respectful, loving, attentive and generous, we feel betrayed and our trust with that person gets frayed. Relationship, any deep relationship, is going to challenge us to drop our entitled child and come to terms with how people and life really are.

In a relationship, there are going to be times when we feel abandoned, disrespected, ignored, not considered, not listened to, pressured and perhaps even abused.

These are times when we have important lessons to learn about life, lessons which empower us and help us to grow up. For instances, there are times when we have to accept the other person the way he or she is and feel the pain of that. Other times, we have to set limits and express our hurt or anger if we feel treated in a way which is disrespectful. Other times, we have to follow our life energy even if it causes discomfort or fear in the other person rather than compromise for harmony. Learning acceptance, setting limits, finding the courage to live our life is empowering. Staying in the entitled child hoping that the other person changes and becoming resentful when they are not as we want them to be is depressing and stressful.



For those of you who go back a bit, you might remember that Godzilla and Frankenstein were monsters in two different movies. When two people go deeply into a relationship, it is predictable and guaranteed that at a certain point, they will trigger each other's deepest wounds and sore points. This is actually the sign of a good relationship, a real relationship. One person's behavior will push the other person deepest buttons and vice versa. But, at that point, each person sees the other as a monster who can not be trusted and who has to be protected against, who is abusive or insensitive or inconsiderate or selfish and who needs to change for the relationship to work.

The wound which the other person is provoking always has its origin in some deep primal wound. And even if we are aware and have worked on this wound, when our loved one provokes it, we no longer see the other person. What we see unconsciously is an abusive or unresponsive or inattentive parent o authority figure from our past. We cannot understand how the other person can be so blind as not to see and understand our pain and sensitivity in this area. What follows in these moments is drama, conflict, hurt, misunderstandings, endless discussion, anger and then deeper mistrust and alienation.

When we understand that this is the true nature of attraction, we can be prepared for conflict or discomfort. We can even welcome it even if it hurts. But we also need a way to work through situations when conflict or pain arises. Our experience is that if each person becomes aware of his or her own particular sore points and can recognize when the other person triggers them, we can begin to share more consciously. For instance, if we have had a controlling or overbearing parent, we can know that most likely, we are going to get triggered by a strong mate or friend. We are going to get triggered when we feel controlled, supervised, criticized or patronized. The other person becomes a monster and we become angry or shocked or some combination of both.

On the other side, we may have had a parent who was irresponsible and collapsed. We may find ourselves in a relationship with someone who has a tendency to go into shock, space out and even “fuck up” when he or she feels stressed. But whenever we feel the other person is not being responsible or present, we feel betrayed and abandoned.

Once we know our source wound – in other words, once we know the root of these emotions, we have the awareness to do the necessary inner work and take the energy away from drama and reaction. Our work is to feel and express (when possible) our fear or pain without trying to change the other person. With this understanding, love flows. When we see the other person as the problem and focus our efforts at convincing him or her how dysfunctional they are, love dies.

Many of us long for sexuality which is alive, spontaneous, deep, sensitive and frequent. And often when two persons come together, it starts out that way. The energy is strong, the bodies are alive and open and both people feel as though they are in heaven. But with time, things change. We may become critical or mistrustful of each other, or feel inhibited or simply less interested. When change sets in, we may even try different techniques to try to bring things back to what they were – holidays, sexual rituals, drugs, porn, or whatever. Nothing wrong with any of that but, in our experience, it misses the basic point.

As two people go deeper in intimacy, vulnerability also deepens and buried fears and insecurities usually arise. When this happens, our sexuality also changes. This is what we call “second level sexuality”. “First level sexuality”, what we may have enjoyed in the beginning, is high energy, orgasm focused, passionate, and often also contains some degree of compensation for shame, inadequacies, insecurities, and fears connected to our sense of self and to our sexuality and also some degree of cover for a feelings of deep inner loneliness. In “second level sex”, our shame and fear is surfacing and we can no longer hide it or run away from it. Moving from level one to level two is healthy and growful because it invites us to know ourselves in a deeper way and it is the road to deeper intimacy as well. But we may miss the uncomplicated sexual high of level one. And we may also not understand or know how to communicate when fears and insecurities arise in love making. Often, we may not even be aware that we are afraid or in shame, but our body knows and will fail to respond or function the way we would like. Men may come fast or can't get an erection; women may have difficulties with orgasm or the problems.

If we know that this stage is most likely going to come if we decide to open more with someone and treat it as an opportunity to deepen our lover and intimacy with the other and with ourselves, we can use this development in a positive way. But it is a challenge because to recognize and to share our fears and shame around sex is difficult. For this to happen, we have to be willing to let go of our addiction to level one sex. That is also not easy. Sex can be one of the most favorite ways of avoiding deeper inner spaces. It can be just like a drug and when fears and insecurities arise, we can easily get frustrated and blame the other person or ourselves for the loss of energy. In our experience, in any relationship, both people mirror each other's state of fear, shame and dysfunction. It usually shows itself in different ways and also one person may be more successful in his or her compensations, but deep down, the wounds are equal in strength.

When we can begin to accept and even share our fears and insecurities in this area, trust grows. As trust grows and as we become more comfortable at accepting and sharing our fears and shame, we enter into what we call “third level sex”. In this level, the emphasis is clearly on connection rather than on the sexual high. There is a foundation of deep love and trust and there is space to handle whatever comes up in sex. At this point, orgasm and high energy can happen or not, or the sexuality can be more silent and non-active, dysfunction can happen or not, it doesn't matter. It is the love and connection that matters and there is a willingness to go through whatever it takes to deepen that.

A final area of understanding that adds consciousness to longing is in the area of roles people get into the longer they are in relationship. It happens very often that one person takes on the role as the caretaking parent while the other person becomes a regressed child. As a caretaking parent, we can either be giving or rejecting depending on our nature and our mood. As a child, we can alternate between being obedient and well behaved or rebellious, again depending on our mood and nature. This situation usually happens totally unconsciously and automatically. But unless these roles are brought to consciousness, they can destroy a relationship.

Many of us long to get the love and caring that we missed as a child and when we enter into relationship as an adult, we carry this longing with us. It can show itself by our becoming self-centered, demanding, lazy, spoiled, pouting, moody or irresponsible. All of this behavior is a cover for deep inner feelings of shame, loneliness and fear which need to be felt. When we play the role of the parent, we are also using the role to cover our shame and fear. It may give us some ego fulfillment because we feel needed and useful but it is essentially an avoidance and breeds resentment and suffering.

This kind of “bonding” as it is called, can be a love killer. It is exhausting to be responsible for another person and it is demeaning and humiliating to feel and behave like a child. In our experience, most relationships become bonded to some extent because we have these tendencies inside of us. But if we can notice them as they arise and begin to watch and feel as we play these roles, it makes all the difference. With this kind of awareness, we develop the power to choose not to play them. And when we know that the survival of our love depends on being conscious of these roles, we are motivated to confront them.

There are other aspects of our learning how to love, but these are four of the most important ones. Relationship is a constant challenge to learn to know and love ourselves. It is an arena where we can grow because our longing to have and share love is so strong. To bring love into our lives, we need to deepen our consciousness. To find and sustain love, we have constant work to do, understandings to acquire and feelings to move through. It's our experience that when two people want to keep their love alive, there are continual challenges. There is much to learn about ourselves and there is no better place to learn it.

Published: http://learningloveseminars.com/articles.php

Bridget Jones’s Diary

De Helen Fielding

El diario de Bridget Jones es una novela inglesa cuya historia guarda un gran paralelismo con mi novel favorita “Pride and Prejudice” de Jane Austin.
Bridget bien podría verse como una posible versión moderna de Elizabeth Bennet, aunque entre ambos caracteres hay enormes diferencias. Lizzy a sus 20 años es una mujer muy segura de si misma, con una alta auto-estima, all lady-like, algo moderna para su época, y quién está limitada solamente por la situación general de la mujer a principios de 1800. Bridget es el otro lado de la moneda, una mujer de 30 años, profesionista, quién vive en su propio departamento en Londres, llena de todas las inseguridades, relacionados con los intereses creados para la mujer moderna: el peso, la vida profesional altamente exitosa, el balance de la vida personal con la vida familiar, y especialmente sus posibilidades para contar con el amor de un hombre especial.
Mark Darcy sin embargo, guarda mucha similaridad en ambas novelas, un hombre guapo, alto, con muchos recursos económicos, exitoso, con valores, que dada la situación no duda en poner todos sus recursos personales para lograr que su amada no sufra (ahhh!!)
Es una novela muy sencilla, pero muy divertida, escrita en un lenguaje muy coloquial lleno de modismos en inglés británico, y una parte de su encanto es que pareciera que efectivamente estamos invadiendo la privacidad de Bridget leyendo su diario.
Aunque el guión de la película conserva elementos de la vida de Bridget, su trama es diferente, pero las características de todos los personajes se guardan. Obviamente el guión está hecho para mantener la atención de espectador en ese medio, pero para quiénes vimos primero la película, después del encuentro entre Bridget y Mark en la comida de año nuevo, todo cambia. Por ejemplo, en el libro, Mark nunca dice: I like just as you are. Aunque dice otras cosas casi igual de lindas. Una vez, que uno asume que la trama en el libro es diferente, se encuentra uno divertidamente ubicado en la constante curiosidad de saber qué ha hecho Bridget al día siguiente.
Ambas novelas son diferentes, aunque me divertí mucho leyendo esta versión, la escrita por Jane Austin, es por lejos mucho, mucho mejor.

Feeling good

Birds flying high
You know how I feel
Sun in the sky
You know how I feel
Reeds driftin' on by
You know how I feel
It's a new dawn
It's a new day
It's a new life
For me
And I'm feeling good

Fish in the sea
You know how I feel
River running free
You know how I feel
Blossom in the tree
You know how I feel
It's a new dawn
It's a new day
It's a new life
For me
And I'm feeling good

Dragonfly out in the sun you know what I mean, don't you know
Butterflies all havin' fun you know what I mean
Sleep in peace when the day is done
And this old world is a new world
And a bold world
For me

Stars when you shine
You know how I feel
Scent of the pine
You know how I feel
Yeah freedom is mine
And I know how I feel
It's a new dawn
It's a new day
It's a new life
For me

And I'm feeling good

Lyrics by

Celebra la vida

No se si soñaba,
No se si dormía,
y la voz de un ángel dijo que te diga,
Celebra la Vida.

Piensa libremente
ayuda a la gente
y por lo que quieras
lucha y sé paciente
lleva poca carga,
a nada te aferres,
porque en este mundo,
nada es para siempre.

Buscate una estrella,
que sea tu guía,
no hieras a nadie,
repate alegría.

Celebra la vida,
celebra la vida,
que nada se guarda
que todo te brinda.
Celebra la vida,
celebra la vida,
segundo a segundo,
y todos los dias.

Y si alguien te engaña,
al decir te quiero,
pon mas leña al fuego
y empieza de nuevo.

No dejes que caigan
tus sueños al suelo
que mientras mas amas
mas cerca esta el cielo.

Grita contra el odio,
contra la mentira,
que la guerra es muerte
y la paz es vida.

Celebra la vida,
celebra la vida,
que nada se guarda
que todo te brinda.
Celebra la vida,
celebra la vida,
segundo a segundo.

No se si soñaba,
No se si dormia,
y la voz de un angel dijo que te diga..

Celebra la vida,
celebra la vida,
y deja en la tierra tu mejor semilla.
Celebra la vida,
celebra la vida,
te escucho mas bella
cuando tu me miras.

Celebra la vida,
celebra la vida...

Letra de Axel Fernando

Who am I?

Who am I?
That the Lord of all the earth,
Would care to know my name,
Would care to feel my hurt.
Who am I?
That the bright and morning star,
Would choose to light the way,
For my ever wandering heart.

Bridge:
Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.

Chorus:
I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.
I am yours.

Who am I?
That the eyes that see my sin
Would look on me with love
And watch me rise again.
Who am I?
That the voice that calmed the sea,
Would call out through the rain,
And calm the storm in me.

Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.


I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.

Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.


I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.
I am yours.

I am yours.

Whom shall I fear?
Whom shall I fear?
'Cause I am yours.
I am yours.

- Casting Crowns

Who am I?

Who am I?
That the Lord of all the earth,
Would care to know my name,
Would care to feel my hurt.
Who am I?
That the bright and morning star,
Would choose to light the way,
For my ever wandering heart.

Bridge:
Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.

Chorus:
I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.
I am yours.

Who am I?
That the eyes that see my sin
Would look on me with love
And watch me rise again.
Who am I?
That the voice that calmed the sea,
Would call out through the rain,
And calm the storm in me.

Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.


I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.

Not because of who I am,
But because of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done,
But because of who you are.


I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow,
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord, you catch me when I'm falling,
And you've told me who I am.
I am yours.
I am yours.

I am yours.

Whom shall I fear?
Whom shall I fear?
'Cause I am yours.
I am yours.

- Casting Crowns

El nudo infinito

En el "nudo sin fin", no hay punto de comienzo ni final lo que significa que el conocimiento del Buda es ilimitado y permanente. Como no tiene principio ni fin simboliza la infinita sabiduría de buda. El nudo infinito representa el aspecto ilimitado, sin fin, de las enseñanzas del Buda, que benefician a todos los seres.
Los maestros tántricos a menudo se los dan a sus discípulos para llevar sus bendiciones y protección. La ofrenda del Nudo Magnífico es para desear que los seres sintientes puedan realizar el mismo despertar que el Buda.
En la tradición tibetana, el nudo infinito es símbolo del cambio incesante de las manifestaciones, el entrecortarse de las líneas denota como los fenómenos están interconectados o dependen de causas y condiciones. El entramado de líneas recuerda el modo en que los fenómenos están interconectados entre sí en un ciclo cerrado de causa y efecto.
También representa la unión de la Sabiduría y el Método, en el tantra, la unión de la energía femenina con la masculina, su unión armónica expresa el amor infinito, la vida infinita, la realización de la unión.

El nudo infinito se usa, no solo en conexión con los símbolos de la buena suerte, sino como el símbolo más fuerte de fortuna. Por ejemplo colocado junto a un regalo o en un escrito significa la conexión entre quien da el regalo y quien lo recibe estableciendo lazos para circunstancias favorables futuras, recordando que nuestras acciones positivas presentes son causas para efectos positivos en el futuro. Recuerda que los efectos positivos futuros tienen su raíz en las causas presentes.

Some thoughts

Whatever is flexible and flowing will tend to grow, whatever is rigid and blocked will wither and die. - Tao Te Ching

A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions. - Oliver Wendell Holmes

Una empresa que nos une a todos.

Más allá de credos religiosos, de afiliaciones políticas, de diferencias de sexo, todos podemos unirnos a la empresa común de quiénes habitamos esta Tierra: CAMBIAR A NIVEL PERSONAL PARA CONSTRUIR TODOS JUNTOS EL PROGRESO INTEGRAL, EN EL RESPETO A LA PERSONA E IMPULSANDO EL BIEN COMÚN, LA SOLIDARIDAD, LA PAZ, LA JUSTICIA Y LA FE.

Como MEDIOS para lograr este objetivo, se proponen dos RECURSOS:
1. ORACIÓN A DIOS DE ACUERDO A TU FE RELIGIOSA
2. ACTUANDO EN CLAVE DE CAMBIO Y DESARROLLO PERSONAL

La oración consiste en amar a Dios, mejor dicho: ORAR ES CONVERSAR AMISTOSAMENTE CON DIOS QUE NOS AMA Y VIVE EN NOSOTROS. Podemos repetirle con calma y sentados por dos minutos: "¡DIOS MIO, TE AMO!"

Actividades para el cambio y crecimiento personales indispensables para el cambio y progreso:

1- Personales:
- Cambiar siempre ideas y palabras negativas, PENSAR Y HABLAR EN POSITIVO COMO PRÁCTICA DE LA ESPERANZA.
- Renunciar a la mediocridad y preguntarse cada día al despertar: ¿CÓMO PUEDO SER MÁS AMOROSO, CREATIVO Y MIS ACCIONES MÁS PROVECHOSAS PARA MÍ Y LOS DEMÁS?
2- En relación a los demás:
- Recordar ideas positivas de los familiares, SU ROSTRO SONRIENTE DE HIJOS E HIJAS DE DIOS.
- Combatir el resentimiento: IMAGINAR QUE YA HEMOS PERDONADO, IMPLORANDO LA GRACIA DIVINA.
- Renunciar al egoísmo, preguntándonos: ¿QUÉ PUEDO HACER PARA AGRADAR A LOS DEMÁS E IMPULSARLOS EN SU DESARROLLO?
- Trascender todo partidismo y sectarismo, diciendo: SENTIRSE PARTE DE LA GRAN FAMILIA DE DIOS.
- Siendo RESPONABLES Y UNIRNOS CON OTROS EN POS DEL CAMBIO Y PROGRESO.
3- En relación al trabajo:
- Elegir siempre la honestidad, RESPETO AL TIEMPO, FAMA Y DINERO DE LA EMPRESA QUE NOS DA EL PRIVILEGIO DE TRABAJAR.
- Elegir ser proactivo, TOMAR INICIATIVAS Y SER CREATIVOS PARA REALIZAR MEJOR NUESTRO TRABAJO.
4- En relación a la espiritualidad:
- Alimentar tu fe religiosa, recordar la PRESENCIA, PODER, MISERICORDIA Y AMOR SIN LÍMITES de Dios.


En síntesis, darnos unos minutos al día para orar y a lo largo del día, promover en nuestro actuar PENSAR Y ACTUAR DE ACUERDO A LA PROPIA FE.

Adaptado de: http://www.luisjorgegonzalez.org.mx/